If I could change one thing about marriage, I really think I would change the transition to a family ward. First of all, don't get me wrong. I feel the spirit every Sunday and I get a lot out of church, which is yet another testament to the truth of the gospel and something that I am thankful for, each and every day! So before I start "complaining" or whatever you want to call it. Allow me to tell you a few things that I love about our new ward:
* Our bishop is a VERY VERY good man. Incredibly spiritual and quite a leader. He is SO big on family and time spent together. He is such a great bishop (he's almost done it seems, though, so I will be sad to see him get released, he's really incredible)
*Our Sunday School discussions are really great! I never thought I would take so much away from studying the Old Testament. It's incredible the parallels to today and I am so grateful that I have a calling right now that allows me to go to Sunday School.
*The ward has been incredibly friendly to us. We've had dinner with a few couples in the ward with plans to get together with more. We have a few couples that have no kids and love games and that makes it a little easier (although most of them have been married for 5+years not 5+ months :)
Okay, so to my rambling.
It's just different and it's hard for me somehow to fully adjust. For example, I miss Relief Society in the singles ward. It seemed that the focus was more concentrated and the discussions were somehow more fulfilling to me. I hate to say it but I am SO sick of hearing the sentence (or anything like it) "When my kids drive me crazy"--especially when you come to find that crazy is not an over-statement. No, we're talking breakdowns, locking oneself in the closet, etc...UM...HELL-O--Here I am just starting my own family, very much so looking forward to having my own family, and yet I feel a little diluted after Relief Society, I feel scared and annoyed. When visiting teaching the other day (I'll spare you the details that led to this comment, too much discussion) the women said, "Well, it sure would be interesting to sit in on a singles' Relief Society meeting, huh?" Almost in an offensive way, and I really wanted to say that I loved my singles ward more. That the discussions in Relief Society were better, optimistic, and focused on the topic at hand. Then, the other day I was attending a meeting about the ward camp out and the statement was made that MOST couples will have their own RV?!!? Um, no, we don't. And that's actually fine. We don't need one and honestly, Zach (and I think me, too) would actually rather sleep in tent (if we end up going). But we are just not at that point. That's not assumed by any means in a singles ward, and it seems like after one day (our wedding day) so much is assumed. As I was walking through the neighborhood in the sun the other day, I started daydreaming about summer and I realized there will be no water skiing/tubing activity at Lucky Peak. There will be no water kickball. I don't really want to be that grown up just yet. I miss my girlfriends that were single in my ward, I still feel like I have more in common with them than I do with these ladies. I miss our bishopric and their wives, they were like a 2nd set of parents.
I guess I'm having trouble being grown up in this way. I miss my singles ward life. That's really the only thing I miss from my single life. The singles ward served me well for a while. I only attended two different wards in my single life, both were life changing in different ways. Both allowed me to make SO many friends (many which I still have), both allowed me to gain a stronger testimony, and both allowed me to develop into the person I am today. I just miss it. I will get used to this I suppose. But if I can put in a request to Heavenly Father, someday I would REALLY REALLY like Zach to be called to the singles ward in some capacity. :) That would be delightful!
Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Monday, March 15, 2010
Until I Can Find Some Time to Really Post
Here is a survey to let you know...I'm still here. I have things to write about, I've just been preoccupied with a new book, church, and my husband. And I'm more than okay with all three!
The couple survey!
What are your middle names?Rose and Zachary
How long have you been together?We've been married four months and we've been together a year and 2 months, we've known each other a year and 5 months :)
Do you have any children together?Not yet! :)
What about pets? Also not yet, and not sure when. Pets are expensive and we're having too much fun right now as it is!! :)
Where is the furthest you have traveled as a couple? Georgia to visit Zach's family
Who has the best group of friends?We both have great friends and we both get along pretty well with each others' friends!
Who has the craziest exes?Him!!!!!!And I'm not even talking about the one everyone probably assumes I'm talking about :)
Who has the worst temper?Funny. He told me he had a TERRIBLE temper when we met and I was SO apprehensive about getting serious with him. Now that we're together, my temper is the problematic characteristic.
Who does the cooking?I do but he helps sometimes and he is pretty GREAT himself!
Who is more social?We both are pretty social in our own ways.
Who is the neat-freak!ME!!!!
Who is the most affectionate?Both of us!
Who is the most stubborn?Both of us, again! :)
Who hogs the bed?He says I hog covers but he ventures his way to "my side" quite frequently. I don't mind one bit(which if you knew me 'pre-Zach' that's a pretty big deal :)
Who wakes up earlier?Naturally, me? He leaves for work before I do.
Where was your first date?Technically, I don't even know.
Who said I Love You first?We still debate that. I think it was me but he first said he was "falling in love with me" and he firmly believes that that counts.
Who has the biggest family?HIS!
Do you give/get flowers often?Nope. He does bring me home Starbucks hot chocolate or Chilis' Chips and Salsa, though, and I quite like that!
How do you spend the holidays?Together with family
Who is more jealous?Me
Do you have little pet names for each other?No. He calls me Shar and I call him Zach. I don't do pet names but occassionally when I'm being funny I have a plethora that I pull from!
Which bill is the hardest on you as a couple?We pay our bills fairly easily, but I think we hate credit card bills or any debt bills. Also our car insurance :)
Did you go to the same school?Not even!
Are you from the same hometown?Nope! Although his grandparents and his dad are from my hometown.
Do you live in the same town now?Yes. Same house!'
Who is the smartest? I would say Zach. I think that he's academically smarter than I am. He knows SO much and has a ridiculous thirst for knowledge that I really don't have. However, I will tell him that I'm smarter when it comes to knowing oneself and I am smart in the sense that I use my intuition and guide myself fairly well!
Who is the most sensitive? I am! I am far more emotional for one and I read so much into little things and my brain goes so many places with one single remark. I've had to start explaining to Zach, "When you say _______, my mind goes _______" so that he understands that I'm really not being irrational. I have rationale for every feeling I have and every reaction I have. I feel quite lucky though, because Zach is just sensitive enough.
Where do you eat out at most as a couple? We go through phases. We did a mom and pop fast food thing for a while. We did Quiznos for a while and then Applebees. Then Chili's because I liked it. Now I hate Chilis' new menu so we don't go. We like trying new places together.
Where do you shop the most as a couple? Together? I think the only place we really shop together is Target unless we're grocery shopping together?! :)
The couple survey!
What are your middle names?Rose and Zachary
How long have you been together?We've been married four months and we've been together a year and 2 months, we've known each other a year and 5 months :)
Do you have any children together?Not yet! :)
What about pets? Also not yet, and not sure when. Pets are expensive and we're having too much fun right now as it is!! :)
Where is the furthest you have traveled as a couple? Georgia to visit Zach's family
Who has the best group of friends?We both have great friends and we both get along pretty well with each others' friends!
Who has the craziest exes?Him!!!!!!And I'm not even talking about the one everyone probably assumes I'm talking about :)
Who has the worst temper?Funny. He told me he had a TERRIBLE temper when we met and I was SO apprehensive about getting serious with him. Now that we're together, my temper is the problematic characteristic.
Who does the cooking?I do but he helps sometimes and he is pretty GREAT himself!
Who is more social?We both are pretty social in our own ways.
Who is the neat-freak!ME!!!!
Who is the most affectionate?Both of us!
Who is the most stubborn?Both of us, again! :)
Who hogs the bed?He says I hog covers but he ventures his way to "my side" quite frequently. I don't mind one bit(which if you knew me 'pre-Zach' that's a pretty big deal :)
Who wakes up earlier?Naturally, me? He leaves for work before I do.
Where was your first date?Technically, I don't even know.
Who said I Love You first?We still debate that. I think it was me but he first said he was "falling in love with me" and he firmly believes that that counts.
Who has the biggest family?HIS!
Do you give/get flowers often?Nope. He does bring me home Starbucks hot chocolate or Chilis' Chips and Salsa, though, and I quite like that!
How do you spend the holidays?Together with family
Who is more jealous?Me
Do you have little pet names for each other?No. He calls me Shar and I call him Zach. I don't do pet names but occassionally when I'm being funny I have a plethora that I pull from!
Which bill is the hardest on you as a couple?We pay our bills fairly easily, but I think we hate credit card bills or any debt bills. Also our car insurance :)
Did you go to the same school?Not even!
Are you from the same hometown?Nope! Although his grandparents and his dad are from my hometown.
Do you live in the same town now?Yes. Same house!'
Who is the smartest? I would say Zach. I think that he's academically smarter than I am. He knows SO much and has a ridiculous thirst for knowledge that I really don't have. However, I will tell him that I'm smarter when it comes to knowing oneself and I am smart in the sense that I use my intuition and guide myself fairly well!
Who is the most sensitive? I am! I am far more emotional for one and I read so much into little things and my brain goes so many places with one single remark. I've had to start explaining to Zach, "When you say _______, my mind goes _______" so that he understands that I'm really not being irrational. I have rationale for every feeling I have and every reaction I have. I feel quite lucky though, because Zach is just sensitive enough.
Where do you eat out at most as a couple? We go through phases. We did a mom and pop fast food thing for a while. We did Quiznos for a while and then Applebees. Then Chili's because I liked it. Now I hate Chilis' new menu so we don't go. We like trying new places together.
Where do you shop the most as a couple? Together? I think the only place we really shop together is Target unless we're grocery shopping together?! :)
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